Positive Impact - A Reminder

POSITIVE IMPACT – A REMINDER

In general, we tend to focus more on the negative aspects of our lives over the positives. I know I've said many negative things about myself and sometimes have a lot of difficulty seeing the better side of me. A piece of advice I often give people is to take a bit of time to reflect on things they've accomplished and what makes them feel good about themselves or life in general. I'm going to take a moment to look things I do to make a positive impact on people.

I give people a space to be themselves without worrying about judgement – A space they can feel safe. I've been judged a lot in my life so I know what it's like and I know there are many people out there more than happy to make judgements on people over the slightest things. Around me it's a discrimination free zone. No one is getting shit for being who they are. I expect people to be respected and respectful in my environment.

I listen to people – Sometimes what someone really needs is to know someone is there listening to them work out something outloud, maybe offering input if it's needed or I can. Just being there can make a difference. I am a pretty damn good listener and I have a solid grasp or words and seem to help people articulate things they can quite put into words without a little help.

Even if someone is being an asshole, maybe they're going through something difficult and don't know how to vent their emotions well or approach the situation. I'm okay with sitting down with them and working their shit out

I make myself open to talk to – If someone needs to talk, I'm pretty much availiable as often as possible. Sometimes I do need to sleep or am busy living my life, or just need to take some time to myself, but if someone needs someone to talk to and they let me know, I make a point to find time for them. I don't just ignore people who need some help. I give advice and words of encouragement as often as I can and if it helps, cool.

I compliment people – As far as I'm concerned people don't hear good things about themselves enough on a regular basis. I enjoy giving people compliments and know how a kind word can turn around a shitty day. I started doing this on a more regular basis after a random stranger came up to me and said, “You're very pretty, you know.” I don't consider myself particularly attractive so this made me feel really good about myself. A few words makes a huge difference.

I'm a generous person – I may not have a lot to give, but I try my best to give all the same. I get frustrated by my lack of funds, often. What I'd like to do is get a bunch of people together and be able to cover food and drink over good converstion but I'm not there yet financially but I will be someday. Instead I'm generous with my time, helping people out with things. I also donate blood reasonably often. At a donor clinic I asked how many donations a year makes a person a regular donor. I was told once a year. I donate 3 to 4 times a year on average. I give when I can.

So I guess I do do some really worthwhile things even if I don't have the highest opinion of myself.